Monday, March 28, 2011

Just a whisper

I believe strongly that when a theme presents itself to you in the Universe over and over again, there is a reason. I think it's God gently trying to guide our lives in the proper direction. Sometimes it's a whisper so faint you nearly miss it. Other times it presents itself as loud and obvious as Thunder and Lightning.


This week was Spring Break for the kids. We decided to have a stay-cation. DH took the week off so we were just going to do fun stuff around town. The week started with Thunder and Lightning. I have a friend who I haven't seen much in the past 10 years. We used to work together in a very VERY small office. It was just the two of us who worked for our company in Colorado Springs. Because of our close, isolated circumstances we got to know each other very well. Even though I haven't seen her much, we've stayed in contact through Facebook and I do consider her a friend.


Last October, her two year old fell into a swimming pool and nearly drown. I have read every update and stayed ever present in her situation. I took the situation, as tragic as it was, as a reason to stay more focused on my own kids. To be ever present in their lives and to keep the thought that everything can change in an instant in the forefront of my mind. Appreciate what you have!


Last weekend my same friend's sister was in a terrible car accident. The family was driving home from a vacation. Their 15 year old was driving and lost control of the car. The parents were ejected from the car and are in critical condition. Their 11 year old son was also ejected and sadly, perished. The only conscious member of the family is the 15 year old who was driving the car, and now, he has this terrible burden to carry.


Once again I am reminded, everything can change in an instant. We are not in control, and as much as we would like to keep our family safe, we simply can't. There are risks, every day. We can not possibly shelter them from every one. We must put our trust in God and do the one thing we can... be grateful.


I spent the week with my own family doing as many fun and fabulous things as we could wrap up in a single week. I laughed at my kids and took many pictures, I listened to their stories and listened to them play with each other. We had a great week. But my friend and her family never left my mind. I want to help, but how?


Running parallel in my life right now is my search for a new plan. I've written about my balance between being a mother and finding work. About feeling inadequate after not working for ten years. I decided a few weeks ago that I'd like to go back to school and get my RN. I have been researching schools and programs and trying to find the right one. Although I am eligible for an accelerated program, because I already have a degree, the pace is too much for my balance. I am starting this summer and plan to take it slow and steady. It should take me no more than three years.


I believe there have been many signs pointing me in this direction. I understand tragedy and have lived through a few myself. I find myself in a painful situation when I know there is nothing I can do to help. I find people's stories so fascinating. Everyone has one and sometimes the story which feels at the time like an ending, only opens you up to a whole new beginning. I realize working as an RN you aren't privy to the end of the story. Many times you have no idea what happens after they leave you but this is, at the very least, a way I think I can help. This is a way, that for the briefest moment, I can be a part of their stories.


In the next few years I will be blogging about being a student again at (cough) 40. I will write about balancing my life moving forward with my job as mother to my kids. But mostly I will remember always to stay focused on the good things in life, because whether you are brave enough to admit it, or to stand in the face of it, everything can change in an instant.